Elle Ashley

A good friend is a person who stands by your side even if you are wrong & helps you get back on track. Never judge you, accepts you for who you really are & loves you. A good friend cares unconditionally & understands. They are always there when you need them even when your closes family members are not there to do so.

I am selective with my friends. Hence I only have a few… These few I treasure with all my heart. They are practically family to me. I met these friends throughout different stages of my life… Some are new, some are old & some has just always been there. I refer to a particular friend today, she is my oldest friend, we met when we were little & she has always been there for me. I love her to no end.

This friend has been with me through thick and thin, through my darkest time to my happiest… She knows my deepest secrets & fears. We’ve been through so much… From pre school to high school, to graduating & now working life, we are still so close… When we were younger… I remember she would come over to my house (telling her parents we were studying) & we would get dressed for a night out clubbing. She would help me dry my hair & I would help her put on make up. Or the times we would just hang out on her porch talking about stupid boys who had broken our hearts & how difficult life turned out to be.

We have grown up now… We both have a different career & leading a very different life. But no matter what we made it a point to meet up for coffee, to catch up. Or a simple phone call to tell each other that we missed each other. It brings me peace of mind to know she will always be close by…

I found out that she was leaving next year to Aussie a couple of days ago… I am shocked, sad, angry & a whole lot of other feelings I don’t know how to describe. I didn’t ask her not to go because I knew I was in no position to do so & it would be unfair to her. So I kept quiet and said nothing. Its been a couple of days & I still haven’t gotten over it… Every time I think about it I feel like breaking down into tears.

Her happiness means the world to me, so if she’s happy I will be too (eventually). I wish her well & all the happiness & success in the world. I hope she finds love there too. But most importantly I hope that distance & time will not effect our friendship in anyway, that we will always be close & good friends forever.

When you are a child…

40% - Fun
30% - Education

10% - Friends

20% - Family

Life use to be all about fun… When all we wanted & thought about was a new toy or a trip to the amusement park & as long as mummy & daddy loved us, everything is ok. The simple mind; so carefree & easily pleased. When money didn’t mean a thing… Oh how I miss that stage of life. We were allowed to make mistakes & learn from them… Of course this is also the beginning of the learning phase; where we are exposed to our first taste of education -kindergarten/ school.  Family played a big role in our lives because we were taken care of… Friends were play mates & nothing more.

When you are young…

20% - Fun/ Individual Interest
40% - Education/ Work

30% - Friends/ Relationships

10% - Family

As we grow older our priorities take a drastic change… Our teenage & college years & the beginning of (what seems to be the never ending) working life…  Fun isn’t everything anymore as school & work starts to take up more of our time & effort. Fun also varies into different categories; Hanging out with friends, clubbing, travelling & participating in all sorts of sports/ games. Family time also decreases as we tend to turn to friends & girlfriends/ boyfriends instead of family members. Somehow we feel we can relate more to them… Money starts to play a crucial part of our lives as we realize the importance of it; this is with exception to those who has millionaires for parents. During this part of life, we start to discover who we are & learn how to be a responsible adult, often making mistakes along the way however life isn’t so forgiving as it used to be. These priorities vary slightly of course from person to person…

When you are an adult…

10% - Fun/ Individual Interest
40% - Work/ Responsibilities

20% - Friends

30% - Family

The fun part of life decreases even further, no wander most adults & our parents are classified as boring & anal, as most of our time and effort is dedicated to work & responsibilities. Money becomes even more important as we now have more commitments such as a family of our own to support & relationships turn into spouses & start having children of our own. We still turn to our good friends, those that have been with us through our younger days. We wouldn’t have survived without them…

When you are old…

30% - Individual Interest
10% - Work/ Responsibilities

20% - Friends

40% - Family

By this time, people start dying, it’s an undeniable fact & we are lucky if we are still around. We are now old & retired, the good thing is we have all the time in the world to spend on what we love doing & work is just a distant memory. I just want to point out that there is no doubt work & responsibilities are very very important, but in the end family is everything that we are left with. When you are an adult that’s when your children are growing up and your family needs you the most. No matter how busy you are, make time to spend with your spouse & children… Do not neglect them. You might be unlucky enough to live to regret it…

So this is love… Every end of December.

Quiet minds… Quiet stars.

I’m up here… Monday to Sunday.

Cause you’re fragile and I’m weak.

So you fall… When the nights grow younger.

Into sleep… you won’t wake up.

And I’m here… I’m sitting beside you.

And I’ll wait… until the spring.

Don’t you worry…

I’ll be there for you.

Don’t worry bout me…

You know me better than that…

Don’t you worry…

I’ll be there for you.

I’ll catch you if you would fall…

So you drift… When the days grow colder.

Away from me… You won’t look back.

Far away and I can’t guide you…

But I’m here… Until the spring.

Does your driving style reflect your personality?

In a shopping mall, have you ever experienced people walking in front of you suddenly stop/ jam break (because something caught their attention/ eye) & you nearly bang into them? Or people who walk really really slowly (because they are talking/ on their mobile/ dreaming) while you’re on your limited 1 hour lunch break & you can’t seem to get past them? Ever realize how this happens on the road as well? Are these the same people who drive like they behave? Let’s take a look at some of the drivers on the road & how their personality resembles them…

The Auntie style

I am sorry but I have to agree with the MCP’s that most women drive like this… Emphasis on the word “most” because I believe that me & a few other women I know do not fall into this category They often road hog & make last minutes decisions to turn left/ right. Often expecting people to give them way. In real life… Don’t we women often think were always right & want everything to go our way?

How do U spot them?

They often sit so close to the steering wheel that they are only focused on what’s in front of their eyes and not their surroundings. Those who have extra headgear on which prevents them from actually looking left and right without moving their head… I’m sure there is no need for me to name names

Taking a Sunday Drive

The people who constantly think it’s Sunday… Often old men who own their own business & rushing to work does not apply to them or people who are already retired & taking their own sweet time to go to the market in the morning. Other people have to get to work at 9AM ok! We know you’ve prolly work really hard throughout your life & want to take things are a slower pace but we would really appreciate it if you could at least allow us to overtake you so you can continue your slow Sunday drive

How do U spot them?

Usually really nice cars, often old cars too… Like a Jaguar, Mercedes or even a Datsun 120Y.

The F1 driver Wanna be

This category breaks down into 2 types. 1 being the people who drives really fast cars & often just likes to show off and the 2nd who are just constantly in a rush/ always late. Either way they often think of themselves as Michael Schumacher or I personally like to think of myself has Mika Hakkinnen (Yes I know he’s retired :P) But once piece of advice… If you wanna drive fast, make sure you know what you’re doing & do it safe. Guilt really does haunts (so hitzfm :P)

How do U spot them?

Cars are usually modified & really loud but watch out for the standard looking ones too… Some people cannot afford mah

Road Bullies

Don’t mess with this bunch, they might just beat the crap outta you. Its really not worth it… They will squeeze you out of the way just because they want to & if you ‘kurang ajar” then they’ll just get down from their vehicle & whack you with a baseball bat which they keep in their boot.

How do U spot them?

Usually bad shape or “ahbengly” modified cars… Oh and busses & lorries too! Actual driver can be spotted gangsterish. Best to just avoid this dodgy bunch… Its really not worth it

Lets all try to be a little more considerate on the road shall we? This way we can get to work/ our destination feeling less stressed… Life is stressful enough as it is without having to curse & swear behind the wheel Always bear in mind that the Fast lane is called a Fast lane for a reason… I myself get really irritated when people rod hog Do you road hog & don’t even know it?