Elle Ashley

In the stressful lives we endure these days… Datelines aka “Deadlines” ;), Multitasking or what I like to call it “doing 10 persons work with 1 single person salary” and putting up with constant backstabbing just to see who remains afloat! Its no wonder so many people battle stress & behave constantly anal But what makes one happy? Could it be an expensive shopping spree, a promotion & a huge pay raise? A Luxury trip abroad? Without question these items I have mentioned is with no doubt reason for celebration but what about the simple joys of life? Here are a few things I am thankful for & little blissful moments which I look forward to…

~Great Company~

I for one go absolutely ecstatic when in the presence of good company. A simple catching up session or “bitching session” as I sometimes call it with my close friends delights me to no end & leaves me recharged when I’m down & stressed. People, who you miss & want to be around, people who make you feel at ease & comfortable just being yourself.

~Yummy Treats~

A plate of tomyam fried rice (with an egg and a sausage mMmm!) and a caramel frappuccino (consumed separately, not together *Tummy ache* :P) gives me a sense of bliss. Call me weird but it does. I guess I’m not that difficult to please? I guess when your tummy is happy; your body is happy… & when your body is happy so is your mind. Am I making sense?

~Good health~

If you’re breathing & kicking, be thankful! Despite all the riches in the world, health is one of the things money can’t buy. Though you can afford to pay for the best medical attention & buy the best health products but it’s not going to guarantee you a painless & ill free life. Let’s be thankful with good health (with the occasional cold & backache) as some others are not so lucky… I believe that every moment we have on this earth we should make the best out of it

~Quality Time~

I’m a fan of quality time… Or some people refer to it as “wasting time” I treasure time spent with my significant other just chilling out, napping, knowing he’s there by my side… I also appreciate time spent alone where I’m free to just be… & have my SSB (Secret Single Behaviour). Things you would never want anyone… I repeat anyone to see No I’m not only referring to naughty things kay!

~Sense of Achievement~

U know that feeling that you get when you do little things for people and they show an enormous amount of gratitude? Or when you work really hard & then you see the fruits of your success? That sense of achievement that nothing else compares to

The next time you’re feeling down and out… When things aren’t exactly going your way… Try to recall some of the simple joys in your life & be thankful with what you are already blessed with… It might just help put a smile on your face

Why is it that these words mean nothing once the love is gone & how does one sustain the meaning of such words/ love?

Words such as “I will always love you, I never want to loose you, there will be no one else in my heart” are often exchanged between two people in love. I know there are the occasional players & fools who are blindly committing to a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship, be it whether not wanting to be alone or just for fun. But this is not what I’m writing about today… I’m referring to the people who are truly in love. Couples who smitten with each other & what more want to actually build a life/ future together… Have a family & grow old together. Let us reminisce for a while, take a trip down memory lane.

Do you remember how your heart would skip a beat whenever you see the love of your life light up in a smile? No matter what you are doing, your mind would be filled with when you saw him/her last, the things you are planning to do when you see each other. Walk around with a silly grin on your face & how the world seemed like a better place for that mere moment… How everything somehow reminds you of that special person, be it a song, a place, type of food. You find yourself thinking “We had our first date at this restaurant or this is the song which we had our 1^st kiss” often followed by dreamy eyes & a smile ear to ear. 

When two people are in love, they often express how they feel, to assure their other half of those special emotions they posses for each other and only each other. “I love you n you alone, you mean everything to me, I will never love anyone else” I can honestly say that I meant every word that I say to my significant other, I can guarantee you. I would never say things just for the sake of saying it. I mean it with all my heart & soul. At that moment I feel like I would not be able to live without him/her, how life would seem so meaningless & pointless without him/her around. How would I be able to go on if he/she no longer loves me and to make things worse loves someone else? I would die of jealousy & hate…

But being a “realist” Ive gone through enough relationships to know that life somehow goes on… No matter what it just does? What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. Some people suffer burnt wounds which never fully heal; some survive with merely a few scratches. Irregardless you survive. *”I will survive” theme song plays* If you choose to learn from your relationships, you can make yourself a better person & take with you what you have learnt to better the next relationship in which you will have, with hope of succeeding in “happily ever after”… 

So what happens to the “I will love you forever, there will be noone else for me, you are the love of my life”? Flushed down the drain with the toilet water? When someone starts to cheat, have affairs, or down right loose interest & dumps his/her partner. Where does the love go? Evaporate into thin air?  *”Where is the love?” song plays* Suddenly it doesn’t mean anything anymore? Are you going to go up to your ex and say “Hello? You said you will always love me, that you would never love anyone else! I don’t care you must love me & stay with me” and the ex agrees ”Alright, I did say that didn’t I? Ok I will continue loving you and not love anyone else” & they both live happily ever after. Will never happen will it? Just doesn’t work that way. Love doesn’t come with a guarantee card saying you’ll be insured & nothing will go wrong. I guess that’s the risk you have to take when it comes to matters of the heart…

But I still want to know where do the love/ meaning of those wonderful words go to? Can you love one person and the next day that person does not mean anything to you anymore? More importantly if you are in a wonderful relationship & want to see it blossom & grow into a life together… Is there a way to sustain the meaning of those words & the love?

I guess the first step we can take in hope to sustain the love in which we cherish so much would be to be constantly take note of this issue. If we want it bad enough we have to continue to work towards it and not slack off / let it just fade away…

But what if its not your fault and you’ve done everything within your power to sustain the love in the relationship & your partner just fucks it up real bad and you’re left shocked and with nothing but a broken heart? I guess some matters are out of our control. But instead of pointing fingers lets just concentrate on our part/selves first and I believe that if everyone works on their part there would be no where to point fingers to… The “hopeless romantic” side of me tells me that I will succeed if I want it badly enough J