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A good friend is a person who stands by your side even if you are wrong & helps you get back on track. Never judge you, accepts you for who you really are & loves you. A good friend cares unconditionally & understands. They are always there when you need them even when your closes family members are not there to do so.
I am selective with my friends. Hence I only have a few… These few I treasure with all my heart. They are practically family to me. I met these friends throughout different stages of my life… Some are new, some are old & some has just always been there. I refer to a particular friend today, she is my oldest friend, we met when we were little & she has always been there for me. I love her to no end.
This friend has been with me through thick and thin, through my darkest time to my happiest… She knows my deepest secrets & fears. We’ve been through so much… From pre school to high school, to graduating & now working life, we are still so close… When we were younger… I remember she would come over to my house (telling her parents we were studying) & we would get dressed for a night out clubbing. She would help me dry my hair & I would help her put on make up. Or the times we would just hang out on her porch talking about stupid boys who had broken our hearts & how difficult life turned out to be.
We have grown up now… We both have a different career & leading a very different life. But no matter what we made it a point to meet up for coffee, to catch up. Or a simple phone call to tell each other that we missed each other. It brings me peace of mind to know she will always be close by…
I found out that she was leaving next year to Aussie a couple of days ago… I am shocked, sad, angry & a whole lot of other feelings I don’t know how to describe. I didn’t ask her not to go because I knew I was in no position to do so & it would be unfair to her. So I kept quiet and said nothing. Its been a couple of days & I still haven’t gotten over it… Every time I think about it I feel like breaking down into tears.
Her happiness means the world to me, so if she’s happy I will be too (eventually). I wish her well & all the happiness & success in the world. I hope she finds love there too. But most importantly I hope that distance & time will not effect our friendship in anyway, that we will always be close & good friends forever.
When you are a child…
40% - Fun
30% - Education
10% - Friends
20% - Family
Life use to be all about fun… When all we wanted & thought about was a new toy or a trip to the amusement park & as long as mummy & daddy loved us, everything is ok. The simple mind; so carefree & easily pleased. When money didn’t mean a thing… Oh how I miss that stage of life. We were allowed to make mistakes & learn from them… Of course this is also the beginning of the learning phase; where we are exposed to our first taste of education -kindergarten/ school. Family played a big role in our lives because we were taken care of… Friends were play mates & nothing more.
When you are young…
20% - Fun/ Individual Interest
40% - Education/ Work
30% - Friends/ Relationships
10% - Family
As we grow older our priorities take a drastic change… Our teenage & college years & the beginning of (what seems to be the never ending) working life… Fun isn’t everything anymore as school & work starts to take up more of our time & effort. Fun also varies into different categories; Hanging out with friends, clubbing, travelling & participating in all sorts of sports/ games. Family time also decreases as we tend to turn to friends & girlfriends/ boyfriends instead of family members. Somehow we feel we can relate more to them… Money starts to play a crucial part of our lives as we realize the importance of it; this is with exception to those who has millionaires for parents. During this part of life, we start to discover who we are & learn how to be a responsible adult, often making mistakes along the way however life isn’t so forgiving as it used to be. These priorities vary slightly of course from person to person…
When you are an adult…
10% - Fun/ Individual Interest
40% - Work/ Responsibilities
20% - Friends
30% - Family
The fun part of life decreases even further, no wander most adults & our parents are classified as boring & anal, as most of our time and effort is dedicated to work & responsibilities. Money becomes even more important as we now have more commitments such as a family of our own to support & relationships turn into spouses & start having children of our own. We still turn to our good friends, those that have been with us through our younger days. We wouldn’t have survived without them…
When you are old…
30% - Individual Interest
10% - Work/ Responsibilities
20% - Friends
40% - Family
By this time, people start dying, it’s an undeniable fact & we are lucky if we are still around. We are now old & retired, the good thing is we have all the time in the world to spend on what we love doing & work is just a distant memory. I just want to point out that there is no doubt work & responsibilities are very very important, but in the end family is everything that we are left with. When you are an adult that’s when your children are growing up and your family needs you the most. No matter how busy you are, make time to spend with your spouse & children… Do not neglect them. You might be unlucky enough to live to regret it…
So this is love… Every end of December.
Quiet minds… Quiet stars.
I’m up here… Monday to Sunday.
Cause you’re fragile and I’m weak.
So you fall… When the nights grow younger.
Into sleep… you won’t wake up.
And I’m here… I’m sitting beside you.
And I’ll wait… until the spring.
Don’t you worry…
I’ll be there for you.
Don’t worry bout me…
You know me better than that…
Don’t you worry…
I’ll be there for you.
I’ll catch you if you would fall…
So you drift… When the days grow colder.
Away from me… You won’t look back.
Far away and I can’t guide you…
But I’m here… Until the spring.
Does your driving style reflect your personality?
In a shopping mall, have you ever experienced people walking in front of you suddenly stop/ jam break (because something caught their attention/ eye) & you nearly bang into them? Or people who walk really really slowly (because they are talking/ on their mobile/ dreaming) while you’re on your limited 1 hour lunch break & you can’t seem to get past them? Ever realize how this happens on the road as well? Are these the same people who drive like they behave? Let’s take a look at some of the drivers on the road & how their personality resembles them…
The Auntie style
I am sorry but I have to agree with the MCP’s that most women drive like this… Emphasis on the word “most” because I believe that me & a few other women I know do not fall into this category 
They often road hog & make last minutes decisions to turn left/ right. Often expecting people to give them way. In real life… Don’t we women often think were always right & want everything to go our way?
How do U spot them?
They often sit so close to the steering wheel that they are only focused on what’s in front of their eyes and not their surroundings. Those who have extra headgear on which prevents them from actually looking left and right without moving their head… I’m sure there is no need for me to name names
Taking a Sunday Drive
The people who constantly think it’s Sunday… Often old men who own their own business & rushing to work does not apply to them or people who are already retired & taking their own sweet time to go to the market in the morning. Other people have to get to work at 9AM ok! We know you’ve prolly work really hard throughout your life & want to take things are a slower pace but we would really appreciate it if you could at least allow us to overtake you so you can continue your slow Sunday drive
How do U spot them?
Usually really nice cars, often old cars too… Like a Jaguar, Mercedes or even a Datsun 120Y.
The F1 driver Wanna be
This category breaks down into 2 types. 1 being the people who drives really fast cars & often just likes to show off and the 2nd who are just constantly in a rush/ always late. Either way they often think of themselves as Michael Schumacher or I personally like to think of myself has Mika Hakkinnen (Yes I know he’s retired :P) But once piece of advice… If you wanna drive fast, make sure you know what you’re doing & do it safe. Guilt really does haunts (so hitzfm :P)
How do U spot them?
Cars are usually modified & really loud but watch out for the standard looking ones too… Some people cannot afford mah
Road Bullies
Don’t mess with this bunch, they might just beat the crap outta you. Its really not worth it… They will squeeze you out of the way just because they want to & if you ‘kurang ajar” then they’ll just get down from their vehicle & whack you with a baseball bat which they keep in their boot. 
How do U spot them?
Usually bad shape or “ahbengly” modified cars… Oh and busses & lorries too! Actual driver can be spotted gangsterish. Best to just avoid this dodgy bunch… Its really not worth it
Lets all try to be a little more considerate on the road shall we? This way we can get to work/ our destination feeling less stressed… Life is stressful enough as it is without having to curse & swear behind the wheel Always bear in mind that the Fast lane is called a Fast lane for a reason… I myself get really irritated when people rod hog Do you road hog & don’t even know it?
In the stressful lives we endure these days… Datelines aka “Deadlines” ;), Multitasking or what I like to call it “doing 10 persons work with 1 single person salary” and putting up with constant backstabbing just to see who remains afloat! Its no wonder so many people battle stress & behave constantly anal But what makes one happy? Could it be an expensive shopping spree, a promotion & a huge pay raise? A Luxury trip abroad? Without question these items I have mentioned is with no doubt reason for celebration but what about the simple joys of life? Here are a few things I am thankful for & little blissful moments which I look forward to…
~Great Company~
I for one go absolutely ecstatic when in the presence of good company. A simple catching up session or “bitching session” as I sometimes call it with my close friends delights me to no end & leaves me recharged when I’m down & stressed. People, who you miss & want to be around, people who make you feel at ease & comfortable just being yourself.
~Yummy Treats~
A plate of tomyam fried rice (with an egg and a sausage mMmm!) and a caramel frappuccino (consumed separately, not together *Tummy ache* :P) gives me a sense of bliss. Call me weird but it does. I guess I’m not that difficult to please? I guess when your tummy is happy; your body is happy… & when your body is happy so is your mind. Am I making sense? 
~Good health~
If you’re breathing & kicking, be thankful! Despite all the riches in the world, health is one of the things money can’t buy. Though you can afford to pay for the best medical attention & buy the best health products but it’s not going to guarantee you a painless & ill free life. Let’s be thankful with good health (with the occasional cold & backache) as some others are not so lucky… I believe that every moment we have on this earth we should make the best out of it
~Quality Time~
I’m a fan of quality time… Or some people refer to it as “wasting time” I treasure time spent with my significant other just chilling out, napping, knowing he’s there by my side… I also appreciate time spent alone where I’m free to just be… & have my SSB (Secret Single Behaviour). Things you would never want anyone… I repeat anyone to see No I’m not only referring to naughty things kay!
~Sense of Achievement~
U know that feeling that you get when you do little things for people and they show an enormous amount of gratitude? Or when you work really hard & then you see the fruits of your success? That sense of achievement that nothing else compares to
The next time you’re feeling down and out… When things aren’t exactly going your way… Try to recall some of the simple joys in your life & be thankful with what you are already blessed with… It might just help put a smile on your face
Why is it that these words mean nothing once the love is gone & how does one sustain the meaning of such words/ love?
Words such as “I will always love you, I never want to loose you, there will be no one else in my heart” are often exchanged between two people in love. I know there are the occasional players & fools who are blindly committing to a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship, be it whether not wanting to be alone or just for fun. But this is not what I’m writing about today… I’m referring to the people who are truly in love. Couples who smitten with each other & what more want to actually build a life/ future together… Have a family & grow old together. Let us reminisce for a while, take a trip down memory lane.
Do you remember how your heart would skip a beat whenever you see the love of your life light up in a smile? No matter what you are doing, your mind would be filled with when you saw him/her last, the things you are planning to do when you see each other. Walk around with a silly grin on your face & how the world seemed like a better place for that mere moment… How everything somehow reminds you of that special person, be it a song, a place, type of food. You find yourself thinking “We had our first date at this restaurant or this is the song which we had our 1st kiss” often followed by dreamy eyes & a smile ear to ear.
When two people are in love, they often express how they feel, to assure their other half of those special emotions they posses for each other and only each other. “I love you n you alone, you mean everything to me, I will never love anyone else” I can honestly say that I meant every word that I say to my significant other, I can guarantee you. I would never say things just for the sake of saying it. I mean it with all my heart & soul. At that moment I feel like I would not be able to live without him/her, how life would seem so meaningless & pointless without him/her around. How would I be able to go on if he/she no longer loves me and to make things worse loves someone else? I would die of jealousy & hate…
But being a “realist” Ive gone through enough relationships to know that life somehow goes on… No matter what it just does? What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. Some people suffer burnt wounds which never fully heal; some survive with merely a few scratches. Irregardless you survive. *”I will survive” theme song plays* If you choose to learn from your relationships, you can make yourself a better person & take with you what you have learnt to better the next relationship in which you will have, with hope of succeeding in “happily ever after”…
So what happens to the “I will love you forever, there will be noone else for me, you are the love of my life”? Flushed down the drain with the toilet water? When someone starts to cheat, have affairs, or down right loose interest & dumps his/her partner. Where does the love go? Evaporate into thin air? *”Where is the love?” song plays* Suddenly it doesn’t mean anything anymore? Are you going to go up to your ex and say “Hello? You said you will always love me, that you would never love anyone else! I don’t care you must love me & stay with me” and the ex agrees ”Alright, I did say that didn’t I? Ok I will continue loving you and not love anyone else” & they both live happily ever after. Will never happen will it? Just doesn’t work that way. Love doesn’t come with a guarantee card saying you’ll be insured & nothing will go wrong. I guess that’s the risk you have to take when it comes to matters of the heart…
But I still want to know where do the love/ meaning of those wonderful words go to? Can you love one person and the next day that person does not mean anything to you anymore? More importantly if you are in a wonderful relationship & want to see it blossom & grow into a life together… Is there a way to sustain the meaning of those words & the love?
I guess the first step we can take in hope to sustain the love in which we cherish so much would be to be constantly take note of this issue. If we want it bad enough we have to continue to work towards it and not slack off / let it just fade away…
But what if its not your fault and you’ve done everything within your power to sustain the love in the relationship & your partner just fucks it up real bad and you’re left shocked and with nothing but a broken heart? I guess some matters are out of our control. But instead of pointing fingers lets just concentrate on our part/selves first and I believe that if everyone works on their part there would be no where to point fingers to… The “hopeless romantic” side of me tells me that I will succeed if I want it badly enough J
